As I grew up, life came to me slowly, and I began to embrace life. I realised I was growing up too fast and my mind was growing with it. I wanted to slow down. I wanted more out of life. I was picking up the pieces of the puzzles and solving them by myself. It was like time was not on my side; I needed to do SOMETHING, to be SOMETHING. I needed to write, to speak for people to hear me out. I thought about a lot of things. I could spend minutes talking to myself just to decide on the next step to take, i still do.
Now that am all grown, I have come to realize that some things matter and some don't. You have RESPONSIBILITIES. You have CHOICES to make. The ones which will make or mar you. I am not complacent with where I am. I feel like there's a void that needs to be filled in my life. I feel like I am not in the right place. Sometimes I am restless, my thoughts are. Sometimes I am confused, I do not know which way to go, but I keep going, trying any and every opportunity that comes my way. My destination is vague, I don't have my life figured out just yet, but I keep hoping, hoping for something I cannot yet see. I've got many thing to sell out to the world, my gifts, my thoughts, my abilities. "How would they know I can do this", I ask myself. Why can't I just wake up one morning and live the life I've always wanted, dreamt about. Sometimes I am afraid because I'm slowly facing life; the reality of it. Life looks me in the face like "Now that you're here, what you gonna do?" I feel entangled in the webs of REALITY. Now, I feel more conscious of myself, of my body. Yes! My body is changing fast too. I begin to look at my body through a mirror I never noticed was there before. And when i look at the mirror, i see a well-defined figure with the edges, curves, flaws, and weight in the right places. I admire what i see. Then, I smile at the figure in the mirror, and she smiles back at me, giving me hope, assurance that everything is going to be okay, everything life throws at me, i am ready to face it. From that moment, I knew I can face what life brings to my doorstep. She gives me strength. I now realise, I love her. I have loved her even before now, but I didn't notice it. I love that figure in the mirror. I will always love her and nothing can change that.
Wednesday, 20 December 2017
THE GROWTH: Me,my self and I
Episode two:Is LOVE a determiner for CHEATING?
On this episode, we're going to be focusing on the REASONS WHY MEN CHEAT. (MEN, not women). No one has ever really had the answer to why men cheat actually, i mean it baffles me to see a young man who has a pretty wife, mother to his children,a, woman who is hardworking, and respectful ,and yet her so called husband still cheats on her! I can never understand you guys (men).I mean what do you really want?
Even if she's not giving you the doggy style and whatever style it is that you've imagined in your head, mehn! You have to COMMUNICATE.. Yes! Tell. It. To. Her! Sex chat with her, spice that shit up! 😋
A man can cheat because he can cheat! For me, there's actually no reason other than selfishness and discontentedness, and in some cases, DISTRUST. I've also come to realise on my own that people cheat all because they don't trust their spouses. They cheat because they do not trust their spouse not to do so, they don't want to feel played all along, so they just cheat in order not to be the only one that will be hurt when Yawa gas!🏃 (When the cat is let out of the bag)
And please i just want to add finally that 🙅NO MAN must ever claim that "oh, i was drunk and i didn't know when i did it, she took advantage of me, she was all over me ". Oh, you mean you didn't know when your penis penetrated into her. You can as well say that you were dead while you did it!👏👏 Listen ladies, those are First -grade LIES. And you're going to be the biggest fool if you believe that sentence. If he want to perform any "drunken- sex, then he has got to be doing it with you! **winks** 😏
For the men in the house,kindly let us know why you cheat or why you think men cheat. For the ladies, your points matter too!
Is LOVE a determiner for cheating?
Some will say when you have eaten a lot of Jollof rice at home, someday it will be good to try Fried rice outside, elsewhere 😏 be it in marriage, relationships, etc. When people (men especially) decide that its time to seek for something different outside their home, not because they're tired, but because they just want to explore. Really? Or is it because they don't love their spouse anymore?
I start getting confused when i see people cheat on their wife or husband and still come back home to do the needful, take care of the home, care for the children's need and all of that. In fact a man can literally deal with anyone who dares to disrespect or hurt his wife,but it is this same man who tells his wife he is going somewhere, but actually goes somewhere else entirely! Does it mean that LOVE is not really a determiner for cheating?
I mean you'll see a very beautiful, lovely and curvy woman, a home builder who is just perfect in your eyes,then you turn around and see that her husband is actually cheating on her with all that package?!!! How come?
What is the cause actually?
Why do people cheat?
Why do men cheat?
Ever asked that question?
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Tuesday, 7 November 2017
BORE DOOM!: 7 things to do when you're bored
7 interesting things to do when you're bored
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Stop being BORED and get on BOARD! Feel that rhyme?lol... You know that feeling when you're way too bored to your bones that you can't even sleep? I've come to find out that people do a lot of things when they're bored. Let's read them,it could help you!
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1. Do a complete make-up on your face,and admire yourself so much in the mirror. After that,take nice pictures of yourself with different poses. Trust me,it works! You can take pictures with a new dress and shoe you just got and post it online ( that's if you have data)
2. Watch funny vide clips that make you laugh or take a peek at some old pictures,down to the new ones and probably laugh at them too!
3. You can make a video of yourself maybe singing ,or even dancing, or just talking
4. For those that have too much airtime,you can call up some old friends or new ones you haven't contactee in years! Seriously,it builds friendship too
5. Listen to music. Listen again and again... Music is life! It's a solace,at karst for me
6. See if you could write some sentences backwards on a paper or on your phone (while texting). This may be "brain- stressing" but its better than being hopelessly bored
7. The last resort is "SLEEPING" lol...this is the ultimate option mehn...Because if you are asleep, you won't even know you ate bored! OR even think of it!..you see!
Just try these simple steps and find yourself going out of the world of "boredom"
Because sometimes Boredom kills!
Wednesday, 20 September 2017
NIGERIAN MEN: UNPARDONABLE PERFECTIONISTS
Its been just 10 years Lola got married to her husband Lade.They are
fine couples who you will fall in love with anytime you see them
together.In church,at home,or anywhere. You will fall I'm love with
being marriage if you know them. But we all know that marriage is not as
rosy as it appears to be.In fact,the roses are filled with thorns
sometimes and we try to uproot them! Lade is a first-class perfectionist! He wants everything to be perfect, accurate.If I don't cook on time,he complains, if I take time to dress up for an occasion,the same.When I just gave birth to our baby,that was the worst! Because if the baby starts crying,he complains and shouts like I was the one who made her cry.He doesn't want to see a pin on the floor whenever am done with house chores! I must tell him virtually everything before I make any move! Its like he has a standard I've not met.I never seem to do anything right.And the way I cook? gosh! Or is it the way I fold the laundry?He seems to be complacent with nothing I do!
You can't please Nigerian men o! Instead you'll even feel guilty because you can't do anything to satisfy them,you'll probably end up making them angry.This has been extended to even sex! You can't seem to satisfy the as they go behind your back....anyway we're not going to talk about that now,that'll be topic for another day.Nigerian men believe were supposed to be angels while they make the home hell for us!
You guys need to change!
THE WEEKEND OF FASCINATORS!
My fascinator business is yet to be established,you'll see!
I wasn't playing throughout, but I still need to visit y'all, cos I miss posting!
Have a happy week and stay blessed!
Saturday, 16 September 2017
5 WEIRD THINGS WE DID AS KIDS/CHILDREN
2. This one is for the girls or maybe ladies now:- We took paper and folded it into a small ball and put it in our clothes near the chest area just so it would look as if we had breasts o! Lemme not lie ehn,am guilty.Is nor my fault,me too wanted to have breasts like a big girl nau. Am sure its not only me,so if you are guilty, better share this,you know yourself
3. Okay,we know that most of opened the fridge in our house and light came on in the fridge,only for us to close it slowly to see if the light will still be on. Its like we wanted to catch the fridge to see if it was playing tricks on us. True or false?
4. For the ladies in the house,I did this one too. Me I like play so don't blame me. Who chewed bubble gum and later cut it in small pieces and place it on our fingernails to feel like we fixed nails like those big aunties we saw those times?
5. Or when our mum buys us skirts or dresses,we'll pull them up and over our knees a little so it can be short. I don't really know what we were thinking at our little age sef?
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*Please comment guys and girls if y'all can relate to this.You can also add some weird stuff you did when you were a kid.
Tell us your secret *winks*don't be shy...lol,its safe here with me