Wednesday 20 December 2017

THE GROWTH: Me,my self and I

       As I grew up, life came to me slowly, and I began to embrace life. I realised I was growing up too fast and my mind was growing with it. I wanted to slow down. I wanted more out of life. I was picking up the pieces of the puzzles and solving them by myself. It was like time was not on my side; I needed to do SOMETHING, to be SOMETHING. I needed to write, to speak for people to hear me out. I thought about a lot of things. I could spend minutes talking to myself just to decide on the next step to take, i still do.
        Now that am all grown, I have come to realize that some things matter and some don't. You have RESPONSIBILITIES. You have CHOICES to make. The ones which will make or mar you. I am not complacent with where I am. I feel like there's a void that needs to be filled in my life. I feel like I am not in the right place. Sometimes I am restless, my thoughts are. Sometimes I am confused, I do not know which way to go, but I keep going, trying any and every opportunity that comes my way. My destination is vague, I don't have my life figured out just yet, but I keep hoping, hoping for something I cannot yet see. I've got many thing to sell out to the world, my gifts, my thoughts, my abilities. "How would they know I can do this", I ask myself. Why can't I just wake up one morning and live the life I've always wanted, dreamt about. Sometimes I am afraid because I'm slowly facing life; the reality of it. Life looks me in the face like "Now that you're here, what you gonna do?" I feel entangled in the webs of REALITY. Now, I feel more conscious of myself, of my body. Yes! My body is changing fast too. I begin to look at my body through a mirror I never noticed was there before. And when i look at the mirror, i see a well-defined figure with the edges, curves, flaws, and weight in the right places. I admire what i see. Then, I smile at the figure in the mirror, and she smiles back at me, giving me hope, assurance that everything is going to be okay, everything life throws at me, i am ready to face it. From that moment, I knew I can face what life brings to my doorstep. She gives me strength. I now realise, I love her. I have loved her even before now, but I didn't notice it. I love that figure in the mirror. I will always love her and nothing can change that.

Episode two:Is LOVE a determiner for CHEATING?

           On this episode, we're going to be focusing on the REASONS WHY MEN CHEAT. (MEN, not women). No one has ever really had the answer to why men cheat actually, i mean it baffles me to see a young man who has a pretty wife, mother to his children,a, woman who is hardworking, and respectful ,and yet her so called husband still cheats on her! I can never understand you guys (men).I mean what do you really want?
            Even if she's not giving you the doggy style and whatever style it is that you've imagined in your head, mehn!  You have to COMMUNICATE.. Yes!  Tell. It. To. Her! Sex chat with her, spice that shit up! 😋
            A man can cheat because he can cheat!  For me, there's actually no reason other than selfishness and discontentedness, and in some cases, DISTRUST. I've also come to realise on my own that people cheat all because they don't trust their spouses. They cheat because they do not trust their spouse not to do so, they don't want to feel played all along, so they just cheat in order not to be the only one that will be hurt when Yawa gas!🏃 (When the cat is let out of the bag)
              And please i just want to add finally that 🙅NO MAN must ever claim that "oh, i was drunk and i didn't know when i did it, she took advantage of me, she was all over me ". Oh, you mean you didn't know when your penis penetrated into her. You can as well say that you were dead while you did it!👏👏 Listen ladies, those are First -grade LIES. And you're going to be the biggest fool if you believe that sentence. If he want to perform any "drunken- sex, then he has got to be doing it with you!  **winks** 😏
            For the men in the house,kindly let us know why you cheat or why you think men cheat. For the ladies, your points matter too! 

Is LOVE a determiner for cheating?

Some will say when you have eaten a lot of Jollof rice at home, someday it will be good to try Fried rice outside, elsewhere 😏 be it in marriage, relationships, etc. When people (men especially) decide that its time to seek for something different outside their home, not because they're tired, but because they just want to explore. Really? Or is it because they don't love their spouse anymore?
       I start getting confused when i see people cheat on their wife or husband and still come back home to do the needful, take care of the home, care for the children's need and all of that. In fact a man can literally deal with anyone who dares to disrespect or hurt his wife,but it is this same man who tells his wife he is going somewhere, but actually goes somewhere else entirely!  Does it mean that LOVE is not really a determiner for cheating?
I mean you'll see a very beautiful, lovely and curvy woman, a home builder who is just perfect in your eyes,then you turn around and see that her husband is actually cheating on her with all that package?!!!  How come?
What is the cause actually?
Why do people cheat?
Why do men cheat?
Ever asked that question?
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